Thursday, July 29, 2010
100 day party
We had a 100 day party for Emily before I left ABQ with Abby and Lily. Emily slept the whole time, but the girls had a good time:)
Saturday, July 17, 2010
Article
I just read this article off of my mom's facebook, and it's great! It totally made me feel like I am not crazy for getting to the end of the day and thinking, I am soooo tired, where is the time for me! However it also made me not regret (nor have I ever) my decision about being a stay at home mom. That while demanding, it is all worth it in the end (even if we are pulling all of the books off of the shelf at the library:)
By Carolyn Hax
Wednesday, May 23, 2007
Carolyn:
Best friend has child. Her: exhausted, busy, no time for self, no time for me, etc. Me (no kids): Wow. Sorry. What'd you do today? Her: Park, play group . . .
Okay. I've done Internet searches, I've talked to parents. I don't get it. What do stay-at-home moms do all day? Please no lists of library, grocery store, dry cleaners . . . I do all those things, too, and I don't do them EVERY DAY. I guess what I'm asking is: What is a typical day and why don't moms have time for a call or e-mail? I work and am away from home nine hours a day (plus a few late work events) and I manage to get it all done. I'm feeling like the kid is an excuse to relax and enjoy -- not a bad thing at all -- but if so, why won't my friend tell me the truth? Is this a peeing contest ("My life is so much harder than yours")? What's the deal? I've got friends with and without kids and all us child-free folks get the same story and have the same questions.
Tacoma, Wash.
Dear Tacoma, Washington,
Relax and enjoy. You're funny.
Or you're lying about having friends with kids.
Or you're taking them at their word that they actually have kids, because you haven't personally been in the same room with them.
I keep wavering between giving you a straight answer and giving my forehead some keyboard. To claim you want to understand, while in the same breath implying that the only logical conclusions are that your mom-friends are either lying or competing with you, is disingenuous indeed.
So, since it's validation you seem to want, the real answer is what you get. In list form. When you have young kids, your typical day is: constant attention, from getting them out of bed, fed, clean, dressed; to keeping them out of harm's way; to answering their coos, cries, questions; to having two arms and carrying one kid, one set of car keys, and supplies for even the quickest trips, including the latest-to-be-declared-essential piece of molded plastic gear; to keeping them from unshelving books at the library; to enforcing rest times; to staying one step ahead of them lest they get too hungry, tired or bored, any one of which produces the kind of checkout-line screaming that gets the checkout line shaking its head.
It's needing 45 minutes to do what takes others 15.
It's constant vigilance, constant touch, constant use of your voice, constant relegation of your needs to the second tier.
It's constant scrutiny and second-guessing from family and friends, well-meaning and otherwise. It's resisting constant temptation to seek short-term relief at everyone's long-term expense.
It's doing all this while concurrently teaching virtually everything -- language, manners, safety, resourcefulness, discipline, curiosity, creativity. Empathy. Everything.
It's also a choice, yes. And a joy. But if you spent all day, every day, with this brand of joy, and then, when you got your first 10 minutes to yourself, wanted to be alone with your thoughts instead of calling a good friend, a good friend wouldn't judge you, complain about you to mutual friends, or marvel how much more productively she uses her time. Either make a sincere effort to understand or keep your snit to yourself.
Here is the link:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/05/22/AR2007052201554.html
By Carolyn Hax
Wednesday, May 23, 2007
Carolyn:
Best friend has child. Her: exhausted, busy, no time for self, no time for me, etc. Me (no kids): Wow. Sorry. What'd you do today? Her: Park, play group . . .
Okay. I've done Internet searches, I've talked to parents. I don't get it. What do stay-at-home moms do all day? Please no lists of library, grocery store, dry cleaners . . . I do all those things, too, and I don't do them EVERY DAY. I guess what I'm asking is: What is a typical day and why don't moms have time for a call or e-mail? I work and am away from home nine hours a day (plus a few late work events) and I manage to get it all done. I'm feeling like the kid is an excuse to relax and enjoy -- not a bad thing at all -- but if so, why won't my friend tell me the truth? Is this a peeing contest ("My life is so much harder than yours")? What's the deal? I've got friends with and without kids and all us child-free folks get the same story and have the same questions.
Tacoma, Wash.
Dear Tacoma, Washington,
Relax and enjoy. You're funny.
Or you're lying about having friends with kids.
Or you're taking them at their word that they actually have kids, because you haven't personally been in the same room with them.
I keep wavering between giving you a straight answer and giving my forehead some keyboard. To claim you want to understand, while in the same breath implying that the only logical conclusions are that your mom-friends are either lying or competing with you, is disingenuous indeed.
So, since it's validation you seem to want, the real answer is what you get. In list form. When you have young kids, your typical day is: constant attention, from getting them out of bed, fed, clean, dressed; to keeping them out of harm's way; to answering their coos, cries, questions; to having two arms and carrying one kid, one set of car keys, and supplies for even the quickest trips, including the latest-to-be-declared-essential piece of molded plastic gear; to keeping them from unshelving books at the library; to enforcing rest times; to staying one step ahead of them lest they get too hungry, tired or bored, any one of which produces the kind of checkout-line screaming that gets the checkout line shaking its head.
It's needing 45 minutes to do what takes others 15.
It's constant vigilance, constant touch, constant use of your voice, constant relegation of your needs to the second tier.
It's constant scrutiny and second-guessing from family and friends, well-meaning and otherwise. It's resisting constant temptation to seek short-term relief at everyone's long-term expense.
It's doing all this while concurrently teaching virtually everything -- language, manners, safety, resourcefulness, discipline, curiosity, creativity. Empathy. Everything.
It's also a choice, yes. And a joy. But if you spent all day, every day, with this brand of joy, and then, when you got your first 10 minutes to yourself, wanted to be alone with your thoughts instead of calling a good friend, a good friend wouldn't judge you, complain about you to mutual friends, or marvel how much more productively she uses her time. Either make a sincere effort to understand or keep your snit to yourself.
Here is the link:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/05/22/AR2007052201554.html
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
100 days
Today Emily is exactly 100 days old! We will celebrate tonight and have a small party to celebrate this momentous occasion. Happy 100 days little girl.
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
The girls are three!!!!!
Emily turned three months on July 5th. I can't believe she is already three months! She holds her head up great, and is working on tummy time. She is a joy to have around, she is soooo smiley. Here she is at her three month "birthday party."
Sofia will turn three years old at the end of the month. However since we will be moving and she has so many friend here we did her birthday party here. It was a Wizard of Oz theme-of course. We had a lot of fun with this theme (just check out this video of Noelle and Sofia!) I will post more pictures in a later post. (I need to download my mom's camera for those). She also had a birthday party at school, those cupcakes were pink and we got Ariel napkins for that party. Sofia will not be lacking in birthday fun when this month is over!
School birthday party fun!
Birthday princess
The cupcakes I was up until midnight making
Dorothy and all of her treats- now looking at this table, I can't believe I served cupcakes, cake, and lollipops! I apologize to all of my friends for their kids who probably didn't nap for days:)
A video of Sofia's reaction when Noelle walked down the stairs dressed as Glinda. I don't think she knew it was Noelle at first, as you can see she was a little star struck! But in the end she pulled through in character, and told Noelle line for line what Dorothy said in the movie- it was too cute.
Sofia will turn three years old at the end of the month. However since we will be moving and she has so many friend here we did her birthday party here. It was a Wizard of Oz theme-of course. We had a lot of fun with this theme (just check out this video of Noelle and Sofia!) I will post more pictures in a later post. (I need to download my mom's camera for those). She also had a birthday party at school, those cupcakes were pink and we got Ariel napkins for that party. Sofia will not be lacking in birthday fun when this month is over!
School birthday party fun!
Birthday princess
The cupcakes I was up until midnight making
Dorothy and all of her treats- now looking at this table, I can't believe I served cupcakes, cake, and lollipops! I apologize to all of my friends for their kids who probably didn't nap for days:)
A video of Sofia's reaction when Noelle walked down the stairs dressed as Glinda. I don't think she knew it was Noelle at first, as you can see she was a little star struck! But in the end she pulled through in character, and told Noelle line for line what Dorothy said in the movie- it was too cute.
Thursday, July 1, 2010
The Birthday Month
Today kicks off Sofia's birthday month! We will celebrate her turning three all month long (that's what we do!). This morning I told her that it was July and it was her birthday month so I needed to take a picture of her. I told her to make a birthday smile and this is what she did:
Happy Birthday month little girl!!!!!
Happy Birthday month little girl!!!!!
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